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By: Today « Dancing by the Light

Today « Dancing by the Light — Wed, 01 Dec 2010 03:35:49 +0000

[...] This time is so different, so much sweeter. Less of a struggle. And it’s going by so quickly! Last time, time seemed to stand still, to drag those first few months. But the past three months of [...]

By: Sue Timko

Sue Timko — Tue, 28 Aug 2007 00:33:02 +0000

Hi Danielle and all those from chesapeake who read this blog . I also remember very well nursing Micah and feeling overwhelmed with the pain and the tiredness. I remember getting a cold and realizing how my life would no longer be about me as I had to wake up and feed her ….sick or not. Then I was thrilled because she never got the cold and was actually very healthy. Allergies are very prevalent in Bernies family and all the nieces and nephews have them and Micah does not. She was also the only baby among them that was nursed and that makes me feel very good. The nursing got so much easier by 6 months and actually became very enjoyable. Many of you dont know this but we now have two foster kids. Skylan is 18 months and Anthony is 4 months. Im sad when i have to bottle feed him but obviously there is no other choice lol. I was thinking today as I sat there feeding him about all the things i needed to do. Skylan was crying to get out of the playpen and Micah was chasing our kittens around the house with some friends. I began to think about how God was blessing me with this little boy because i was forced to drop everything and sit and be quiet. I could spend time praying and even reading in the midst of all the kiddy craziness throughout the day!

P.S. If anyone wants a kitty we have three of them. They are black with a few small white areas on their bellies. There are two girls and a boy. They are almost ready to be weaned so if interested just give us a call at 410 676 9336!
Sue and Bernie Timko :+)

By: zoanna

zoanna — Thu, 28 Jun 2007 13:39:21 +0000

Daneille, you have given the blessed gift of honesty here. There are so many preconceived notions of how new mothers SHOULD feel that put indescribable guilt into the heart of every new mom.
I remember wanting big breasts all my life, but when I got them (by being engorged) and my hubby greeted me with “Helllooooooooo, Dolly!”) I cried. Cried till I laughed, they hurt so badly. I look back and laugh now, but I remember thinking it was a huge sacrifice to make for one little baby that couldn’t even thank me verbally. I remember thinking “There’s so much more I could be doing” while nursing, but when I realized that patience produced better milk flow (it really does) and Ben started to put on pounds, it was so worth it. Then I discovered prayer. Pray in detail, not a fly-over-the-city approach. Try praying thru the alphabet God’s attributes. Or for people you know A to Z. (I can help you think of a Z name if need be:). You are in a big transiition phase right now. But nursing is such a Godly picture of patience. Sip by sip, protein by protein, we grow to be like our heavenly Parent.

By: parobinson

parobinson — Thu, 21 Jun 2007 14:31:39 +0000

Thanks for being so candid. I wish someone had been candid with me before I started breastfeeding. At two months I am begining to love it, so it does come with time. I think those first couple weeks I was grieving my loss of independence, as well as just dealing with the hardness of breastfeeding. For me, every time I sat down to nurse it was a reminder that my time would not be my own for many years. I think it’s OK to grieve over that loss for a while! Thanks again for sharing your struggle.

By: briana

briana — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 20:15:20 +0000

I would say these are lessons most of us w/ kiddos have had to learn. I see much grace in your life as you are confronted with your heart and quickly seek to be right before the Lord about whatever it is He’s showing to you. This will invite more and more grace into your life, not always making the road, but certainly not making it harder than it has to be.
You’re doing a great job laying down your life for those little boys and one day they will rise and call you ‘blessed’.

By: Dena

Dena — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 22:41:52 +0000

I feel the same way about stopping what I’m doing to spend time with people in my life. I struggle with the similar mindset of being willing to give of my time to others when I’d rather be working (on stuff)!

By: Christina

Christina — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 20:47:40 +0000

Thanks for sharing your heart and being so vulnerable. Nursing IS hard, especially at first. But it does get easier! I loved to read while I nursed, but I don’t know how you could logistically do it with twins! If it proves to be difficult, you could try books on tape (or ipod or whatever). Our library stocks all the classics as well as many newer books on tape and CD. You could even play the Bible or Valley of Vision CD and get your little ones used to hearing God’s word and edifying prayers.

Blessings to you!

By: Danielle

Danielle — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 18:56:36 +0000

Thanks for your comments, ladies. Nice to know others find nursing to be a challenge too! Thanks for the book recommendations, Bethany, and to use the time for prayer, Jessica.

I hope to be putting up new pictures soon, so stay posted!

By: Bethany

Bethany — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 03:52:43 +0000

Oh I remember the nursing thing with Seth being a rude awakening too….no one talks about the toe curling pain in the beginning or how. I also had an infection with him and didn’t know it so he would take about 45 min to nurse I would burp him change him and then it seemed like he was ready to eat again. I remeber feeling like I always had to go hide somewhere to nurse him because it was so hard to get him on and such so I felt isolated and like I was missing out. But everyone kept saying give it 6-8 weeks after that it gets better and it did. He weaned himself and 10 months and I cried. I actually missed it then and couldn’t believe it. Jude was easier…no infections and having one child arlready I liked the excuse of taking a break to go put my feet up and nurse. Like others said pick up a book….I devored so many books nursing my boys. Enjoy just staring at them and touching all their little tiny parts….they are going to start growing so fast and you will want those quiet moments back. The more you nurse the easier it gets….to do anywhere and even to do other things while you are nursing…won’t be long. I won’t pretend to know what you are going through with two….I am sure that is much more difficult. I think it is great what you wrote here and how honest you were. Bring it to God he will help you. I know for me having children has really shown me how selfish I am so know you are not alone in that feeling or revelation. I will be praying for you that it gets better. Maybe all of us BFing or soon to be need to make a list of books to read or movie recommendations. I can recommend one book. A mothers heart there is a link on my blog. It has some great practical advice and encouragement on raising kids and praying for them etc. Loved the book.

Big hugs to you. Hey I want to see a pic of your boys soon. I bet they are changing a lot.

By: Fishmama

Fishmama — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 03:29:34 +0000

Thanks for sharing, Danielle, how God has been working in you! That is so exciting! My “surprise” was lack of sleep. And now fifth time around God has blessed me with one who’s been sleeping through the night for months!

I’m like an A-/B+ personality, but I still have a hard time patiently sitting to nurse. One thing that helps is to spend that time praying!

Pray for your boys, your hubby, your church, heck, pray for me! You could make a list of ALL the people you could pray for and probably NOT get through the list before the boys are done with their meal. You probably couldn’t spend the time any better.

God will give you grace!